I had a great night tonight!

[gremashlo]

Jul 22, 2009 6:43:59 GMT -5 H2IZCOOL said:

Jul 22, 2009 0:01:55 GMT -5 Pete70s said:

I love Facebook, over half my friends there are people I went to school with. It's kind of funny, a lot of them remember me as a quiet, shy person, and now I am nothing like that!

The love of my middle school life, who wouldn't give me the time of day back then, is now my friend on FB! A few select others have declined my friend request, which goes to show who grew up and who didn't!

I agree, Pete. Life is funny. I've had a close friend from HS ignore my friend request also.

Now - when you say they declined your friend request, do you mean they ignored it or is there a way that someone can actually tell you on FB that they are not interested? I've had a couple people accept my friend request months after I made it - they don't get on FB much.

My boss told me the other day that he FB friended a girl from HS who he always had the hots for and in their subsequent messaging, she told him she had been interested in him back then. "Great!" he says to me. "That really helps me now; I'm sure my wife would be thrilled!" LOL!

First off, I don't think that it indicates a request has been rejected, unless you try again--I have no info on that. I also had some people accept me as a friend several months after I contacted them--as noted, some people just don't access their accounts very much.

Facebook has been a GREAT way for me to find old college friends, and it has been a surprising way to get re-acquainted with many of my former students and speech/drama kids...it has also made for strange "friend" contacts: a girl from my high school who NEVER spoke to me once through jr-sr high school was the FIRST one to request me as a friend--quite odd. My wife has found the same thing--stuck up snots who treated her horribly suddenly want her on their friend list.

In those cases, I think it's just the dire need to still be "the most popular person" that didn't die from school--for example, I saw that a person on the RL site has over 800 "friends"...rriiiiiigght...

In some other cases, I found people who weren't as close as I had thought--I once found a former college girlfriend (nothing serious) who I lost touch of, but thought about fondly...we had written quite a few letters over the years, and I had even attended her wedding. I found her on Facebook, and sent her a message w/a friend request, and about two weeks later, she responded--rather blandly and distantly--and I've never heard from her since. I kept thinking of the Doobie Brothers lyric--"She had a place in his life/He never made her think twice"...

[Dawn]

Grem is right - when a friend request is rejected, the person making the request doesn't get any kind of notification. But, from what I understand, once you reject someone as a friend, they can't send you another request. Friend requests to people that aren't accepted or rejected show up as "pending friend request" - not sure if there's a time limit on those or not.

Unless it's someone I dislike - and that's the very rare exception - I usually accept friend requests of people I know, whether we've met in person or that I know well from a message board. I must say, I don't understand these people that have 500+ friends, unless they are very well known. It's unlikely that the average person would have that many friends - a lot of these cases I suspect are people just trying to build impressive friend totals.

[gremashlo]

Jul 22, 2009 12:23:46 GMT -5 Dawn said:

Grem is right - when a friend request is rejected, the person making the request doesn't get any kind of notification. But, from what I understand, once you reject someone as a friend, they can't send you another request. Friend requests to people that aren't accepted or rejected show up as "pending friend request" - not sure if there's a time limit on those or not.

Unless it's someone I dislike - and that's the very rare exception - I usually accept friend requests of people I know, whether we've met in person or that I know well from a message board. I must say, I don't understand these people that have 500+ friends, unless they are very well known. It's unlikely that the average person would have that many friends - a lot of these cases I suspect are people just trying to build impressive friend totals.

I pretty much wind up accepting all friend requests, but the ones that are annoying or frauds just pumping up their friend totals I click off the application that accesses their comments--so, I have them as friends, but I don't have to read their useless prattle.